What are three things you can do to be a better friend to the people in your life?
- Be available emotionally
- Give my time physically, mentally
- Give my love spiritually
It's funny that this happened to be the topic of the day for the Post A Day 2011; Post a Week 2011 challenge. Because Thursday morning I woke in a funk. I mean straight crappy thinking about not having friends of substance. No limbs to step out on that wouldn't break. No one to call if there were an emergency and my parents were on the way but not right here and I was quiet the majority of the day. I only talked to 18 - 5 and 6 year olds. I was quiet at the gym. I prayed about whether I needed to be silent and therefore I was. Because I was hurt. I felt used. And I don't like to feel used by people. I try to avoid situations where it seems I might end up using someone and I don't like to see others used. I cried about this. Because I felt that I wasn't as important to my friends as I make them to be to me.
All this because a friend didn't text me back or call me back. For like the umpteenth time. But I processed it, I let it be what it was and I was good on Friday. Because the reality is everyone does their thing. Even me. I can only control me. I'm not doormat material, so I'll be good to my people and when it's not reciprocated, I'll give them their time to do what it is they do and I'll go on and do me.